Thoughts
Here's a hot take. Gender roles are bad because they are frequently used to exclude and shame. That is true. But. In our desire to avoid
gender roles and to empower individuals, we've idealized **independence** to a degree far far greater than what is healthy. Humans weren't meant to survive alone. A perfect world is not one where everyone knows how to cook for themselves.
We criticize "willful ignorance" when one partner allows the other to whole manage some affair, but there's a lot of trust that's implicit in that. I want to be in the type of relationship where there are things that I don't have to worry about or think about because I can trust that my partner is taking care of it. And in general, yes, learning things is good, knowing how things work is good, being able to do things yourself is good. But there are a lot of people that learn how to do things in order to survive alone because they either have to, or because they don't trust their partner.
I can't come up with any examples so maybe that should tell you something.