Thoughts
It’s freeing to recognize that a lot of “feminist” “discourse” discusses the ways that the system treats men and women differently.
I don’t know if this is a feminist or anti-feminist position but I don’t think you can productively talk about “men” and “women” as broad groups. Yes the current system is sexist but that doesn’t mean you have to adopt their language or even their groupings.
I could elaborate more but not right now.