Thoughts
The other thought I had along the judge/perceive line is that I do tend to be judgmental of people; I just don’t allow myself to act on it.
I’m not to be mean to them or stop talking to them, but I do form an opinion on them.
But this is backwards in some ways—if I don’t like them I should stop talking to them, and then I can distance myself from them and don’t need to condemn their character.
That is to say, there’s a difference between a person and my relationship with the person. And I shouldn’t judge their person but I should judge our relationship.