Thoughts
I had a thought recently about people sleeping in the same bed. There's a kind of intimacy that comes with trusting someone to touch you.
But I viewed that intimacy as kind of conditional. I thought that person A trusted person B to choose correctly to touch them in the right ways at the right time. But if person B is asleep then they're not thinking about how they're touching person A. The sleeping person B is going to roll over on top of person A and put their hand in person A's eyes.
I've heard "be okay with mistakes" but I've also heard "learn from mistakes." And in my mind mistakes are inevitable but they're something to always be avoided if possible and learned from—I don't want to accept mistakes. (Maybe mistake isn't the right word here, "imperfection" "flaw" etc.)
But two people sleeping in the same bed share a sort of intimacy that transcends accepting the conscious person. And accepting the conscious person might be built on trust or shared experiences or values or be conditional in some way. But accepting the unconscious person can't be.
I should probably approach my waking relationships with at least being open to accepting or trusting people unconditionally (something that I've never really done).